In this final part of the Mindful Communication Challenge we look within at our own willingness to do things differently. We have examined healthier listening, and running what we communicate through the three filters of Is It True? Is It Kind and Is It Useful? But are we really willing to do things differently? What excuses come up for us when we are confronted with living and communicating differently?
We have been working on improving our communication over the last three weeks focussing on listening, and asking whether what we are saying is true and whether it is kind? This week we add a third gate that we will try to have our words pass through: Is it useful? Is what I am about to say going to be of use, add to the situation or conversation, and be beneficial?
It is easy to not give much thought to what we say – letting our words go from our mouths without considering how they may impact those listening. Our words have the ability to hurt or heal. What do you want yours to do?
We will talk more about this on Sunday beginning at 10:30 a.m. See you then!
Everything that needs to be communicated to another person can always be done kindly, no matter how difficult the subject matter. In part 2 of this series we looked at how to determine if what we are about to say is true, really true–not just our biased view of what is true. Once we can get clear on that then we have to let it pass through the gate of kindness. How can I communicate this in a kind way? What is a loving way to express this?
We invite you to look deeper into this with us Sunday at 10:30 a.m.
Healthy communication can be challenging. One of the things that will help us to communicate well is if we look within ourselves to see if what we are planning to say is true. We need to get clear on what our own biases may be, what hurts or experiences may be influencing how we view things, and honestly offer our best understanding at the moment. This may require that we say things more often in a tentative manner rather than in a definitive way. Our sentences might start with words like, “It seems to me…” or “I am thinking about it this way…” or “I am not sure but this is how it appears to me…”
Is it true? Let’s find out. See you Sunday at 10:30 a.m.
It is amazing how much our communication can change and grow healthier and more effective by taking the time to practice good listening habits. It is easy to get sidetracked by what we are going to say next, or how we are reacting to what someone else is saying. It takes mindful attention to listen and listen well. To really hear what someone is saying with both their words and their tone and body language.
This week we begin a five week journey towards more healthy communication. We hope you can be there with us Sunday at 10:30 a.m. You can watch our live stream on our Facebook page: https://www.facebook.com/BoulderNewChurch/
We will be live streaming our worship service this Sunday to our New Church of Boulder Valley Facebook page instead of our webpage. This is an experiment I am trying. If you can’t make it to the service you can catch it there (assuming all goes as planned).https://www.facebook.com/BoulderNewChurch/
See you there at 10:30 a.m.
There are a lot of opinions about what makes love within a relationship last. There are also many misconceptions about what love is. Love is our very life.
Life is from our Creator. So is true, healthy, lasting love. If we want to have more of the kind of love present in our life that is from the source of our life then there are a few things we are told we can do. The main thing is to get spiritual.
Come and discuss this more on Sunday at 10:30 a.m. We would love to see you here.
There may be things in our lives that are keeping us in an unhealthy state of mind or way of being. The reason we are given truth and wisdom is that it can heal us by showing us a different way to live or a different way to think about things. But of course, the healing doesn’t happen if we don’t act on what we know. This Sunday we will talk about the ability truth has to heal us and set us free. As Jesus said, “The truth will set you free.”
Come and see how you can live more freely and so more happily. Worship begins at 10:30 a.m.
There is great power available to you right now. Why not take a moment and access it?
Join us Sunday as we talk about prayer and what it can do in our lives. Worship begins at 10:30 a.m.
Holy Supper (communion) will be offered near the close of the service this week.